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How to Spot the Signs of Codependency
From Very Well Mind By Wendy Rose Gould
At a Glance
Codependency arises when one person becomes excessively reliant on another, often seen in relationships affected by addiction. Originally coined in the 1950s to describe partners of those with substance use issues, codependency creates an imbalanced dynamic where the "giver" sacrifices their own needs for the "taker." Rooted in early attachment patterns and influenced by biological, psychological, and social factors, codependency can lead to a loss of self. Recognizing signs, such as self-sacrifice and prioritizing others’ needs, is key. Recovery involves self-awareness, boundary-setting, and often therapy to foster healthier relationships.
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The 5 Key Takeaways
Definition of Codependency
Codependency is an excessive reliance on another person, often creating an imbalanced relationship where one person (the “giver”) prioritizes the other’s needs (the “taker”) over their own.
Origins and Context
The term "codependency" was first used in the 1950s within the context of substance abuse, describing the dynamic often seen between individuals and their partners with addiction issues.
Imbalance in Relationships
Codependent relationships create an unhealthy dynamic, with one person sacrificing their own needs and well-being, leading to a loss of self.
Root Causes
Codependency is often influenced by early attachment patterns and factors that may be biological (e.g., heightened empathy), psychological (e.g., caregiving tendencies), or social (e.g., family roles and societal norms).
Recognizing Codependency
Key signs include constant self-sacrifice, feeling responsible for another’s well-being, and losing one’s sense of identity within the relationship.
Steps for Overcoming Codependency
Recovery involves building self-awareness, setting boundaries, and often seeking therapy to restore personal balance and establish healthier relationships.
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