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How to Stop Being Codependent
My Amy Morin, Very Well Mind
At a Glance
Codependency, often called "relationship addiction," is a learned behavior where individuals become excessively reliant on others in unhealthy ways. It frequently appears in dysfunctional families, especially those affected by addiction, mental illness, or abuse. Codependent individuals tend to sacrifice their own needs to care for others, developing patterns such as low self-esteem, boundary issues, and an overwhelming need to be needed. Common signs include difficulty asserting oneself, an intense need for approval, and feeling responsible for others’ problems. Recovery from codependency involves setting boundaries, self-care, and often professional support, including group therapy or cognitive behavioral therapy, to foster healthier relationship patterns and personal well-being.
The Key Takeaways
Definition of Codependency
Codependency, known as "relationship addiction," is a pattern where individuals excessively rely on others for emotional needs, often sacrificing their own well-being.
Origins in Dysfunctional Families
Codependency often develops in families with addiction, mental illness, or abuse, where individuals learn to prioritize others' needs over their own to maintain family dynamics.
Signs and Behaviors
Codependent individuals typically struggle with low self-esteem, lack healthy boundaries, feel responsible for others’ issues, and may display a strong need to "be needed."
Impact of Dysfunctional Families
Codependency often develops in dysfunctional families, where issues like addiction or abuse are denied. Family members may ignore their own needs, fostering patterns of behavior that can inhibit healthy emotional development.
Emotional Consequences
Codependent individuals may enable the behaviors of those they care for, creating a cycle of dependency that leaves them feeling responsible for others’ well-being while losing a sense of self.
Treatment and Recovery
Overcoming codependency involves building self-awareness, learning to set boundaries, and focusing on self-care. Therapy, such as cognitive behavioral therapy or group therapy, often helps individuals develop healthier relationship patterns.
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